I am going to lay some cold hard facts on you today – blending a family is probably one of the toughest adventures you will go on in this life. The statistics for success in staying married in this blended family are dismal. Many spouses and children need professional counseling due to abandonment issues, distrust, not having a sense of belonging, and a lack of security. Ex-spouses and extended family can wreak havoc upon your fragile family. Sounds like there is no hope.
Let me share some other hopeless situations with you – found right in the Bible.
In the book of Daniel, we read about Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. These men were exiled from Jerusalem to Babylon. They refused to bow down to a 90-foot statue of King Nebuchadnezzar. The king was furious so he sentenced the three to the fiery furnace. The three men were willing to die rather than bow down to any other king but the Lord their God.
The story continues with King Nebuchadnezzar having the men thrown in the furnace. As he watched for them to be consumed by the flames, he was astounded that he saw not only the three men walking about unharmed – but a fourth man as well. King Nebuchadnezzar’s heart was changed that day. He saw God in that furnace.
In the book of Joshua, we read about a woman – a prostitute – named Rahab. She makes a very brave decision to hide two spies on her rooftop, protecting them from the king of Jericho. She also acknowledges the Lord as the God of heaven and earth. From this simple faith, she and her family were saved and is part of the lineage of Christ. She saw God’s protection.
In the book of Acts, we read about Peter and the apostles being on trial for teaching about Jesus. The Sanhedrin were wanting to kill these men. But, God had other plans and the men were set free and continued teaching and proclaiming the good news that Jesus is the Messiah. Peter and the apostles saw God make a way.
In the book of Matthew, we read of Jesus the Messiah leading and teaching, serving and healing, obeying and honoring the Lord God His Father. He comes to a place where He knows His ministry, physically, on this earth is almost over. He is also aware of the pain and the abuse to come, if He chooses.
Jesus chose obedience to God rather than conform to this world – and that led to His crucifixion on the cross. That day, Jesus triumphed over sin and death, and we can now come before the Father for the forgiveness of our sins and have the hope of eternal life with Him in heaven. Jesus saw God’s plan to the finish.
This is YOUR God! The same God who protected Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego in a furnace; the same God who protected a prostitute and her family from death; the same God who swayed the Sanhedrin; the same God who sent His Son Jesus to be the sacrifice for our sins so that we might come to Him … Yes! … this is your God.
If He can provide a way when there seems to be no way…then He can provide a way for you as well.
Being in a blended family is tough – but not impossible. You just need to know who has you – who is your God. Each Bible story is your example that God can take any situation and make it glorify Him.
Your marriage and family have the same opportunity. So refuse to bow down to the images and idols this world wants you to fall to; refuse to stop telling yourself and others about Jesus and what He can do; stop fearing the worst, but be bold to hang tightly to God and then grab the rest of your family and hold on.
These stories are all about what God can do. This is your God! Now that’s what I call hope!
Blessings in your Blending!