- A New Year. A New President. New emotions about our country and our lives. I watch and read stories about protests and marches, riots and rebellions. And somewhere in the recesses of my slightly off kilter brain, I am thinking about how our political system can be somewhat compared to our blended families. I know this is a stretch … but please bear with me as I attempt to gather the thoughts in my head and convey them to you for consideration.
My first husband – who won my vote – was back in 1985. He did well during his term as my husband and leader. There were ideas and suggestions that were voted into laws. Then there were other times my input was vetoed. There were times that I was a devoted follower of this leader, and then, unfortunately, other times when the thought of impeachment swirled around in my head. He was “in office” for 10 years. Through those years, we gained knowledge, strength, wisdom – and a couple of kids. We learned how to work with each other and also how to disagree with each other – and yet still be married. His presidency – term in office – our marriage – ended in 1996 with his death.
The next man was “voted in” in 2004. This presidency was going to look very different than the previous one. This new guy came with two of his own children, plus two grandkids that would live with us as well. This leader had been impeached three times before. He had a different way of governing … a different way of leading … a different way of confrontation. Through all the negatives, through all the insecurities of the future, through all the numerous times my step daughter’s kids came home with lice, I hung in there. I voted this man and family into “office.” I would see it through.
As I look back at both marriages – or regimes – I found some things done well. Let me share with you three tips that worked. Interestingly enough, these tips effectively apply to your reactions to our nation’s leadership.
First of all, PRAY. First Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. What this implies to me is that my talk and my thoughts are to be shared at all times with God. When we consistently bring our marriages before God, we are more likely to seek His ways of responding to our husbands. Pray for your husbands. First Timothy 2:1-2, tells us to pray and intercede for kings and all in authority – that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. Pray for our nation.
Second of all, SERVE. Matthew 20:28 tells us that Jesus came to earth not to be served, but to serve us. He deserved to be waited on and adored. He deserved obedience and compassion. He deserved mankind to fall at His feet and worship. And in John, chapter 13, we see this Jesus, King of kings and Lord of lords – taking a pan of water and a towel and washing off His disciples’ dusty, dirty feet. We have much to learn about life and how to treat each other just from this passage. Gently and humbly serve your husband. Gently and humbly serve others.
Third of all, FORGIVE. You are not perfect. You can thank Adam and Eve for that! Don’t expect your husband and family – and even your country’s leaders to be perfect either. So you are going to want to be ready to forgive as well as ask for forgiveness. Matthew 6:14-15 says, “… for if you forgive others when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
So whether you are helping to lead a family or guide a nation, you want to use the best tips possible so remember to pray, serve and forgive.
Blessings in your Blending!