Mentors. They are everywhere. If you want to learn to dance, you find an instructor. If you want to learn a foreign language, you find a teacher. If you want to be the best wife possible, you go to Proverbs Chapter 31, verses 10-31. I don’t know how many times I’ve read these verses and skimmed over the virtues- mostly thinking the thirteen virtues were too impossible to attain all at once. I’m lucky if I can exhibit one virtue within a 24 hour period! Nonetheless, we are going to call them out and rise to the challenge of facing, claiming, and owning these virtues for our very own.
So in order to face these virtues, we must know them. “The Excellent Wife,” a book written by Martha Peace, condenses this list: A wonderful woman fears the Lord, is blessed by her children, is praised, is careful, is not afraid, is a worker with her hands, is wise, generous, good to her husband, respectful to her husband, of exceptional worth, is trusted and she is kind. Now that we have them out in the open, we can begin to claim them for ourselves.
Proverbs 9:10 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” Therefore to be this Proverbs 31 woman, we must fear God. God loves us, sent His Son to die for our sins, has had a plan for each one of us before the beginning of creation. In light of that, we are blessed if we remember the price God paid to give us salvation and eternal life through Jesus Christ. This fear is likened to an utmost respect and reverence for God along with knowing that where sin is, there will be discipline, a refining of sorts, to continue the process of molding and shaping us into the image of His Son, Jesus.
I believe that when we actively walk in a manner of respect, awe, fear and reverence for God, our children will see and know our hearts and our actions and will bless us – be thankful to God for us. This may take place many years down the road, but our hearts were created to be very patient with our children – always waiting and wanting for their very best.
This woman is careful – in what she says to others and about others; in what she does and how she does. We have a great responsibility to show our children and family a thoughtful way to live our lives instead of carelessly.
This woman is not afraid. I think that with age, this gets easier. As we learn to trust God and lean into Him through the problems of life, we gain a courage and a strong belief that God is the One who will lead us and fight for us!
This woman works. I truly believe that we are to be workers – with whatever job you have and then also to be a worker in your home and in your church community. There is much to keep up with. I find that with a mapped out plan of my week, I can accomplish much. Love that saying, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”
This woman is wise and generous. I know God gives me wisdom when I seek Him first – after all, He created everything – He is the All Knowing so He should automatically be the first One I want to run my day by and turn my problems over to and seek counsel. I also believe that whatever you give to others generously will always come back around to you when needed. It may not come back in the same form it went out, but God always blesses a cheerful giver!
This woman is good to her husband and respectful of him. Your children will learn to be wives and husbands by watching you and your husband. Serving each other and respecting each other will be valuable tools that will help your children create caring, loving marriages of their own.
This woman is of exceptional worth, is trusted and is kind. In several areas of my life, I know that I’m of great worth to my husband and children. I have God-given strengths that bless my husband and kiddos. I bring Dan trust and honor, loyalty and honesty. I bring him, our family and our home my diligence and determination.
There are other areas that I am a ‘work in progress’ and that is okay. I know I’m gaining ground! You will too as you recognize your strengths and use them. We also should look for every opportunity to be kind to others. Start practicing kindness to your spouse, kids and family. It’s like a plant – with water and sunshine, it grows and becomes stronger!
I used to be intimidated by this perfect Proverbs 31 Woman … but with my desire to be a woman that God would be proud of, I’m seeing more of this woman than ever before!
Blessings in Your Blending!