Combining my family with my husband’s family seemed impossible. We had a 20-year-old with a baby and one on the way. We had a 17-year-old with Asperger’s Syndrome. We had a 16-year-old in the throes of high school and hormones; and we had a 13-year-old who just wanted a dad again and the hopes of a big, fun family.
I think we had only been married a little more than a month when Dan and I realized that in order to blend this bunch, counseling was our next step. We needed help and an outside perspective. I was overwhelmed and felt utterly under-equipped.
Have you ever felt like that? Does your family dynamic include a list of impossibilities to work through? Do you need an outside perspective and some help figuring out how to blend this family? I have some hope that I would like to share with you.
First and foremost, we serve a God of the Impossible! I sang a song recently, titled “God of the Impossible” by Sarah Reeves. I love the chorus: “God of the impossible; maker of all miracles. I stand in awe of you. I am so amazed by how You reach into my brokenness; make me beautiful again. I believe, yes, I believe that nothing is impossible with You.” Luke 1:37 says “For nothing is impossible with God.” This is the same God that formed the earth with just a word, the same God that set the stars in place and calls them by name, the same God that knows the very number of hairs on your head. This same God wants you to – and will help you – walk this blending process into victory.
Second of all, get plugged into a local church; there is just something about living in community with other believers who are willing to walk along with you on your journey. You are going to be surprised at how many other families are in this blended family “boat!”
If you find that you need some additional help, this brings me to my next point: mentors and counselors. These people are instrumental in walking you through situations and guiding your path. I know mine did!
Lastly, there are devotionals and books that will help give you perspective on blending your family – like mine! In 2005, when I was searching for help in blending my family, there wasn’t much out there. I remember being so upset because I found devotionals for soccer moms, but not stepmoms! What was the deal? I will say, though, in recent years we are finally getting more pertinent information out there for those struggling to blend their family and fine-tune their recipe for a happy, healthy family. There are devotionals, books, study guides, and DVD series.
There are numerous blending family bloggers and social media stepmom sites. Do a little research yourself and find something you believe will give you the insight, help, and hope as you learn to “stir and mix” your own blended family recipe! So the next time you start feeling overwhelmed and under equipped, just grab some of your hair and start counting! Our God is the God of the impossible!