Speak over your family. No … I don’t mean yell!
For years, I have spoken positive statements over my children. When my daughter was just months old, I would put her in her baby swing and just gently swing her and sing-song statements to her. I would say things like, “you are so smart; you are so talented; God has an amazing plan for your life; you were given special dreams and desires — go for them.” I did the same for my son. As a 26-year-old and a 23-year-old, I can definitely tell you that those positive statements certainly made an impact. They are both smart and talented and are chasing their dreams and chasing where God would have them. Looking back, I wish I would have spoken a couple more positive life statements over them. My daughter is a bit of a klutz and kind of forgetful. I wonder if I would have spoken over her that she is graceful and well organized if that would have made a difference in her life today!
I have spoken statements over my husband such as, “I believe you can do anything God puts in your path; you are an amazing husband; you are such a nurturing dad; etc. Well, Dan went from doing public relations at a small museum to being a hospital administrator for a psychiatric hospital. No college degree. Just a belief in himself and hopefully hearing that his wife believed in him also!
What are the words coming from your mouth on a day to day basis? Are you instilling positive thoughts in your husband’s and children’s minds? There is an old saying, “Garbage in, garbage out.” I believe it. Whatever you pour into other’s minds, you can expect to receive the same back from them in the future. But before you can expect to be this free-flowing fountain of encouragement and positivity, you need to examine what are you filling your heart and mind with?
It really is difficult to lift others up when you are bombarded with negativity. I’ve pretty much always been an optimist. But there are times when where my eyes are focused, there is negative. The more I focus on that negative, the more it multiplies into other areas of my life. That’s why the following Bible verse is sooo important to me: Philippians 4:8 says, “brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.”
I didn’t just memorize this verse and ‘ta da’… I’m Positive Polly. It is a verse that will teach and train you. It will transform your thoughts. Believe me, though, it takes lots of practice. I challenge you to say something uplifting and encouraging to every person you cross paths with today. Specifically place positive words into your children’s lives. Encourage them to dream and then – back up their dreams! You might want to add a few statements like “you love doing chores and you are very respectful and have wonderful manners! J Let your husband hear about the positive things he does for you and your family – what a terrific provider he is; or how his lawn mowing skills are “da bomb!” Then – and this may be the hardest – go ahead and let yourself hear you say something good about you!