Proverbs 12:4 — An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
You are a step parent. That is about the same as calling you a SuperHero! Not only have you decided to become a wife and take on that lifetime challenge, but you also have thrown in children – whether they be yours, his…and quite possibly some ‘ours’! The day I married Dan, I became a wife, stepmom, and grandmother. I think my SuperHero cape has some bling on it for that! LOL I had a good marriage before Dan and then 7 years of widowhood. That is a lot of time to think about things that went well in the first marriage and things that didn’t go so well. I wanted to make sure that with Dan, I was going to be a more godly wife, more mature in my living and thinking. As the Proverbs verse said, I wanted to be an excellent wife that would be the crown on Dan’s head. I certainly didn’t want to make his bones rot! There were a couple of things that I did that hopefully helped Dan in this blended family marriage. I let him lead – well, most of the time I tried to let him lead! LOL 1 Corinthians 11:3 says, “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” Your husband has a very large responsibility to Christ – which is under God. If hubby makes wrong decisions for you and your family, he is the one to take the heat for that. So I take Dan’s responsibility as my husband very seriously. I believe, therefore, it is my job to help make that responsibility as joyous and pain free as possible. When we are faced with decisions or obstacles in our marriage, I am there to help him talk through scenarios and possibilities. I offer opinions – without penalties. For example, I don’t offer my opinion and then tell Dan that his opinion is dumb or wrong. I trust in God to take care of me – and that includes trusting God to lead Dan and our family. I would like to encourage you to start thinking about how your actions and words are a crown on your husband’s head. Can you picture it? Is his crown tarnished? Does it still have a nice round shape or does it look like a truck ran over it? Have some of the jewels fallen out? I am hoping that Dan’s crown doesn’t have too many scrapes and dings on it. I want his crown to be breathtaking – shiny, elegant, beautiful, hard-working, creative, respectful, loving, thoughtful, helpful, gentle and giving. Remember, his crown is a reflection of you. So, get out your cape, you Super Stepmom – and if you have a tiara, I would rock that as well!